People underestimate this.

Yesterday I told you to socialize yourself. 

Today I want to tell you one important skill you have to master for this, that most people don't understand. 

It is the Skill of listening. 

You have to learn the Art of listening. 

Who do you love the most and in the life of which individual are you the most interested in? 

The answer is yourself. Even if it didn't come to your mind immediately. 

You spend all your time with yourself.

You want to talk about what you experience, about your feelings or your goals. At least in some way. 

You have to admit that most people, maybe including yourself, want to talk about themselves all the time. 

They want to share their whole existence with the world. That's why social media is so successful. 

You have to satisfy this desire. You have to become a professional-listener.

So how do you do that? 

1.BE PRESENT:

We are all so distracted from everything today. We are not focused on the other person anymore.
Your focus has to be on the conversation. Don't think about something else. Meditation is a great way to practice this. You have to be present with the other person. Don't be on your phone, don't daydream and don't think abou other things you want to do right now. Be present in the moment and enjoy. 

2. BODY LANGUAGE
Mirror the other person. You have to mirror the body language of the other person. If they cross their legs, you do so. If they lean forward, you do so. But dont do it in a creepy, robot way. If you do this the right way you will create a connection that goes deeper, than just the normal conversation and people will reveal a lot more to you.
Eyecontact is extremely important. Do 2-4 seconds if it's a normal conversation. If it's a little bit more flirty conversation you can hold it longer. But don't make it creepy. Also look for what the other person is doing. For example, if they avoid eye contact all the time don't stare at them for the whole conversation. 

3. ASK QUESTIONS.
You have to really want to know the other person,their feeling, their experience and all those other things. You have to be genuinely interested in them. You have to ask questions that go into more and more detail. Let them talk, listen carefully to them. And ask genuine questions. That's most important. 

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